Reinforcements

It is very easy, when things are going well, to put in place reinforcements to keep things headed in the right direction, or better handle crises and stresses when they arrive.  By reinforcements, I mean a series of positive behaviors and habits that seem, individually, too simple, but as a cumulative have significant impact. When things…

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The Absurd

At dinner yesterday someone mentioned The Absurd, and I was reminded of art school: when that skill was a critical and relevant part of creativity. It figured prominently in my own work, always manifesting in this sort of wan, half-alive kind of way. (At that point I hadn’t fully committed to being a person.) So now, as…

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Clarity + Good Aim

How do you strive to get better at something if you don’t know what it is you are aiming towards? If you are not involved in a competitive sport, where ‘winning’ is the objective, you must come up with new objectives. A handy objective we choose is often money.  It’s easy to measure. And then, to…

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Breaking the Time Spell

I’ve been thinking intensely about my experience of time this week, and our collective and personal subjective experiences of time, this strange abstraction as it is. And then, like magic, I woke up today without that nagging pressure of ‘get more stuff done.’ So on to more breaking-of-the-spell thought activities.    

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How To Think

A little reflection on the balance between magical thinking and scientific thinking: “Science has organized this nervousness into a regular technique, her so-called method of verification; and she has fallen so deeply in love with this method that one may even say she has ceased to care for truth by itself at all. It is…

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Forget(ting) About Email

Like nearly every American, I’ve had an email device in my pocket for over ten years now, filled up with some ten email accounts and thousands of messages. And, except when doing something like climbing, eating, or sleeping I checked email about every fifteen minutes during waking hours. That is, until about a month ago,…

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Emotional GPS

A couple of weeks ago I came to the conclusion that my emotional GPS is flawed.  Possibly even broken, possibly never worked at all. I started to compare it to Daniel’s real-world sense of direction.  He recognizes places, but they just don’t auto-organize into a spatial map inside his head.  So, if I’m in the…

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The Guidance of Boundaries

Sometimes I wish I had a sensai, a life trainer, who would tell me where to go next and correct my movements with confidence. Nobody really gets that in real life, despite the proliferation of life coaches and the like. It would just be so nice, you know, to know that someone was watching and…

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Seasonality

One thing we’ve heard a couple times here from longtime Miami beach residents : “It gets tiring for the weather to always be summer.” Oh, but winter in April gets tiring too. Seasons just never seem to come when we’d like them to. :)

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Getting from here to there

I’ve been reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. I probably should have read it when it came out in 1995, because not infrequently, I’ll say to Daniel, Why do we have to have emotions? Feelings are just so problematic. Wouldn’t it be better to not have them? Well, as it turns out, there are plenty of…

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