Emotional Deconstructionism

So there’s been this hypothesis organizing my life for a while now, and it goes like this: emotionalism leads to poor decision-making and illogical behavior, which will erode happiness and contentment. One of the nice things about having a romantic partner and business partner in one is that it’s easy to mutually develop theories about…

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Weekend Marriage

Sign up to receive an email every time a new blog post or video is published. On vacation, I love to read pop psychology.  Or pop-evolutionary-psychology.  Like this book Sex at Dawn.  Basic premise:  like the animals most similar to us, Bonobos and Chimps, humans exhibit a lot of physical, mental, and emotional markers of…

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Farm Life

Sign up to receive an email every time a new blog post or video is published. A photoseries. Because there’s something to this quasi-apocalyptic sorta-back-to-the-lander gentle-woman and gentleman farming.  And just to clarify, we’re only hanging out here, we don’t actually farm.  But it’s nice.   Sign up to receive an email every time a…

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Origami Problem Solving

I’ve been thinking about this quote a bit lately:  “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”  – Einstein That’s the true reason that often the answer to a problem is surprising. It’s tempting to become entrapped by engaging with problems-  we battle cancer, we fight corruption, we…

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Honeymoon

Daniel and I are going to Europe next week-  for a belated honeymoon of sorts. Much like our low-key, low-planning wedding, this upcoming trip has practically no destinations.  We bought the cheapest ticket we could find-  to “anywhere in Europe” and will be deplaning in Zurich sometime next week.  After that, the plan is generally to…

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Freedom :: Creative Boundaries, and Marriage

Strangely perhaps, getting married has felt very freeing.  (Daniel agrees.)  Both of us had spent most of our lives thinking marriage was not an appealing idea, not something that we particularly desired in the future. For me, that younger-self disinterest in marriage evolved as I neared thirty, and I could more clearly imagine an outcome…

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morality? honesty?

I’m a skeptic about the idea of morality in interpersonal relationships.  I think the only conceptual approach that actually works is honesty.  And it’s only possible to be honest if you know where you’re at and what you can handle. here’s how I’d break it down: I’m absolutely not a moral relativist.  (haha, see that. …

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energetic debts

been thinking lots about friendships and other types of relationships lately. it’s clear in any relationship there is a give and take-  and it’s really an energetic thing. You can imagine it concretely in terms of money.  Perhaps there’s a friendship where two people hang out frequently, and one person always pays.  All other things…

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