The plot lines and fault lines

Or, the importance of iterative change. In a relationship, for instance, you will find certain conversations “reoccur” with surprising frequency. They are the themes. The persistence of their reoccurrence year over year is just the proof that the underlying issue has not been moving, not been changing. In our romantic relationships it’s easiest to identify…

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Dirtbag v. Citydweller

When I was 18 or 19 I made the choice to live a city life. This was partially informed, but not totally, by experience. I had dipped my toe into the full-time climbing car-camping dirtbag lifestyle, and it interested me, but the city had a certain appeal that was hard to look away from. So…

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