morality? honesty?

I’m a skeptic about the idea of morality in interpersonal relationships.  I think the only conceptual approach that actually works is honesty.  And it’s only possible to be honest if you know where you’re at and what you can handle. here’s how I’d break it down: I’m absolutely not a moral relativist.  (haha, see that. …

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energetic debts

been thinking lots about friendships and other types of relationships lately. it’s clear in any relationship there is a give and take-  and it’s really an energetic thing. You can imagine it concretely in terms of money.  Perhaps there’s a friendship where two people hang out frequently, and one person always pays.  All other things…

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reality

freedom: the real thing, not the political term, has nothing to do with circumstance.  it’s a feeling, the same as non-attachment in the eastern terminology-  it’s a recognition of how what we do both simultaneously matters and does not matter. I’m very attracted to people who have some form of this freedom.  We all are…

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introversion

here’s what being an introvert feels like:  loud, crowded environments make your skin crawl and uncomfortably increase the level of adrenaline in your body. Making small talk hurts, in a synethesic kind of way. talking in general is dully uncomfortable, unless you know the other person very well. even being around people you like, for…

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thoughts on money

we all know the phrase-  money doesn’t buy happiness.  it’s cliche.  but most people really never get to experience the truth. I was brought up in a family situation where money wasn’t a problem.  there was always enough/more than enough.  my parents didn’t fight about money, to my knowledge, and if they did, it wasn’t…

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sustainability models

there is, as I’ve mentioned before, a very cool web meme regarding simple lifestyles and self-employment.  It’s called, variously, minimalism, freedom, etc.  Please visit ridculouslyextradinary.com , farbeyondthestars.com or illuminatedmind.net for popular examples.  I read these blogs and enjoy the writers’ opinions. however, the entire notion is premised around 1. laptop computers and/or 2. smartphones. (and…

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restricting the rules

“restricting the rules”  — that’s actually how I described what I’ve been doing, in conversation with a friend. my personal tendency is always towards the restriction side of the addiction spectrum.  some people overdo it with substances, I always restrict them or remove them entirely.  examples:  food groups, alcohol, drugs, over-the-counter medications, prescription meds, and…

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*fashion*

in my about page I described my relationship to fashion as a bit ‘complicated’….    It’s taken me many years to figure out what I enjoy and what I can’t stand (and thus don’t participate in.) But I can say it in two sentences:  I love making clothes.  I don’t enjoy the rest of the…

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design process

this question has come up a few times in the past week:  someone asks me “what is your design process?” it’s simple.  I think about what I want to wear, and then I make it.  Or I think about what I’d want to wear if my life were a little different (like, say, I went…

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a reading

I had a psychic reading done recently.  She reads via email, which works really well for my personality (the one time I went to a psychic in person I almost had a panic attack.) the general gist of the reading was that it’s deeply important, imperative, for me to focus on my creative path in…

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